"The Hitch List" by Venisha Shah - The Law House Family Law Solicitors, London & Peterborough

“The Hitch List” by Venisha Shah

By in All Blogs, Family Law Category on May 10th, 2013

Thanks to Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, we’re all familiar with the purpose of “The Bucket List” – a list of things to do before you kick the bucket. We often hear marriage referred to as the end of life as we know it. It’s with this in mind that I have developed “The Hitch List” – a list of things to do before you get hitched.

Make a Will

70% of us will die without a Will, often leaving behind stress for loved ones to deal with. If you are getting married it is worth considering having a Will to protect your spouse and any children you may have together. Not many people know that if you have an existing Will and you get married, the existing Will is revoked unless it was made in contemplation of marriage.   So if you have a Will and are getting married it might be a good idea to have a solicitor look at it before the big day.

Think about a Pre-Nuptial Agreement

Sadly, over 40% of marriages end in divorce. This can often mean protracted negotiations and court intervention, to reach an agreement regarding matrimonial assets. Signing up to a pre-nuptial agreement, while perhaps not as romantic as signing the marriage register, can protect pre-marriage assets and give family members peace of mind as far as family businesses or money are concerned.

Talk about your expectations

It’s amazing how many couples separate simply because they wanted different things from marriage. It’s wise to take the time to discuss things like whether you both want children and whether it’s expected that one parent will stay at home to care for them. Talk about where you’d like to live, where you see yourselves in ten years time and where you hope married life will take you.

Get to know one another

Statistics suggest that couples who live together before marriage are less likely to get divorced. If you don’t wish to cohabit before marriage, take the time to get to know the person you’re going to marry as thoroughly as possible. Better to discover the bad habits that will inevitably drive you crazy before you tie the knot rather than afterwards!

Think ‘marriage’ not ‘wedding’

These days we’re bombarded with images of fairy tale weddings in glossy magazines and it’s easy to get caught up in the flowers, dress and cake and forget about the commitment of marriage. It’s important to remember that a wedding is one day and marriage is a commitment for life that will bring its highs and lows.

 Be selfish

Before you get married remember that married life will involve sacrifice and many of your decisions will impact on your spouse. While you’re still single enjoy only having to think about yourself. Take a holiday with friends, have that spa treatment, buy those designer shoes…!

If you would like to discuss a pre nup or you have sadly reached the stage where the relationship has broken down and would like to speak to me please contact Venisha Shahon 020 8899 6620or email us at vshah@thelawhouse.com.