As the last traces of Xmas and turkey are cleared up and family and friends go home our thoughts turn to the prospect of a new year. For most of us a new year is a time to reflect on the past year and to think what changes need to be made in the forthcoming year in the hope of finding that ever elusive thing called “happiness” and “contentment”.
In the build up to Christmas most of us have looked forward to taking much needed time off and spending some “quality” time with our loved ones. Yet now having have spent hours and days over the festive period cooped up with them and in particular their relatives at this point as we approach the new year many of us are silently screaming to ourselves
“I am so not doing that again! I am not spending another Xmas with the in-laws!”
What is it about this time of year that we all look forward to and plan down to the finest detail but by the time it is over we have had enough and means that historically January is always the busiest time of year for family and divorce solicitors. It can’t just be the mother in law that makes people take that first step towards ending the marriage or the over boiled Brussels sprouts.
The truth is for most people that see a divorce lawyer in January it is something that has been building up over the past months, and for some years, and a small incident can just tip them over the edge. Those little irritating habits that we have put up with daily or the endless bickering and disagreements suddenly seem much bigger because we have spent more than a few hours at the beginning or the end of the day together. Most of us have watched the reality show Big Brother – the original principle behind that show was to see how a bunch of strangers behaved over a period of time whilst being cooped up together. Something that would seem small in the outside world is turned into something much bigger because of the circumstances. Is Xmas really that different?
At any other time of year by the time we have done the school run and had a coffee we have forgotten the soggy towel on the bathroom floor or the cereal bowl that made its way to the sink but not into the dishwasher! After a day apart we watch a bit of TV or are glued to some other screen and then flop into bed and do it all again the next day. By the time 2nd January dawns however and we are ready to go back to work after that much looked forward to break we have also resolved never to go through that again!!
If this is you and you really can’t face doing it all over again next year but are worried about the consequences for your children or finances talk to me about your options. Call me on 01923 521003 or email me on firstname.lastname@example.org