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DIY Divorce! by Sara Barnes

By in All Blogs, Family Law Category on November 21st, 2013

There are so many websites out there that promise a quick and easy divorce, some for as little as £37. Tempting, but is it really a good as it sounds? In our view there is no such thing as a “quickie divorce” mostly because too many things can go wrong. Nothing is ever as simple as it seems and good, professional legal advice is essential to ensure that you achieve the best result for yourself and if appropriate, your children following divorce and dare we say it a fair deal for your about to be ex! Before you start thinking of using a low cost online divorce provide read on…!

Of all the questions that clients ask us first it is always about cost and quite right too. At The Law House we are upfront about costs from the start because we understand that the last thing you need is the shock of a large bill. Most people going through a divorce are already in straightened circumstances most often because you have to run two households during the period of negotiations during a divorce. Lets face it, solicitors don’t always have the best reputation when it comes to fees. We like our clients to talk to us about money. Most people are unaware that if you opt for the ‘quick and easy’ online divorce or instruct an experienced solicitor, the court fees are the same – £445.

Divorce or the dissolution of a civil partnership is probably one of the most stressful things you will ever do in your life and it ranks in the top 3 for significant stressful life events. A good divorce solicitor will provide you clear and succinct advice and assistance which ultimately will result in a significant reduction of worry and anxiety.

For many divorce is fraught with all sorts of issues and it is often difficult if not impossible to think clearly and act rationally. Experienced solicitors are emotionally neutral as it is not about them and they will look at your divorce in a calm and rational way and be able to advice on the divorce process and what the next steps will involve.

Divorce generates a lot of paperwork, not just court documents but correspondence and file note and is not as simple as it first appears. When we take over cases from people who have got so far with the divorce process one of the key things we notice is the lack of information or detail, the client simply doesn’t fully appreciate how much information to provide and could be leaving out crucial information that would be in their best interests. A solicitor will be able to advise you when drafting the divorce petition, how strong your case is and what information you should leave in or out. However angry or hurt you might be feeling you don’t want to make matters worse by upsetting your spouse further which ultimately can affect costs with further hostile communications between them and your solicitor.

In our experience the divorce process never runs smooth. Even when divorce proceedings are issued it often happens that the other party simply doesn’t respond or they want to contest every little details. Most ‘do it yourself’ divorces don’t have enough information or guidance to deal with the unexpected issues that can often arise during the divorce process.

However enticing the cost appears if you get it wrong the costs can spiral out of control which adds further stress to an already difficult situation. If you get the paperwork wrong be in no doubt that the court will send it back to you and charge you for doing so.

Most ‘do it yourself’ divorce websites fail woefully to deal with the such important issues as finances and children matters. We would never advise a client to finalise a divorce until all financial matters are resolved. This often happens when you do it yourself and often because you simply want the matter to over and done with.

It is our view that no website offering low cost divorces simply can offer you advice tailored to your specific circumstances. When it comes to money and finance don’t ever think that they are straightforward they are not. They are complex and require knowledge and skill. Lack of knowledge as to whether you have a financial claim is a common error. For example did you know that you are entitled to maintenance for themselves or a share in their spouse’s pension. A good solicitor can advise you about all aspects of your case, about what is a fair and reasonable given your circumstances and if you need representation in court proceedings.

Even when you successfully reach an agreement with your spouse there is still a way to go. A draft agreement in a form which will be approved by the court so this is an important part of the process. Any orders relating to financial matter are not so clear cut. For experienced divorce solicitors this is easy but they will also ensure that provisions are in place if your spouse decides to change their mind and ignore the agreement. You can only know how you will behave in life and a good solicitor knows that you need to plan for the unexpected.

Even when you think it is all over you may sometimes have to go to court again to deal with the unexpected. This too can be very stressful. Good representation is vital and a good solicitor will keep you informed all the way. It is worth noting that court will only review your case in very limited circumstances. So the rule of thumb is to get the right advice from the start. If it looks to good to be true it probably is.

If you are in the process of or considering divorce, please give me a call to talk through your options. At The Law House we have a variety of fee options, including fixed costs where appropriate. Please contact me in 01245 809 556 or email me at sbarnes@thelawhouse.com There are so many websites out there that promise a quick and easy divorce, some for as little as £37. Tempting, but is it really a good as it sounds? In our view there is no such thing as a “quickie divorce” mostly because too many things can go wrong. Nothing is ever as simple as it seems and good, professional legal advice is essential to ensure that you achieve the best result for yourself and if appropriate, your children following divorce and dare we say it a fair deal for your about to be ex! Before you start thinking of using a low cost online divorce provide read on…!Of all the questions that clients ask us first it is always about cost and quite right too. At The Law House we are upfront about costs from the start because we understand that the last thing you need is the shock of a large bill. Most people going through a divorce are already in straightened circumstances most often because you have to run two households during the period of negotiations during a divorce. Lets face it, solicitors don’t always have the best reputation when it comes to fees. We like our clients to talk to us about money. Most people are unaware that if you opt for the ‘quick and easy’ online divorce or instruct an experienced solicitor, the court fees are the same – £445.

Divorce or the dissolution of a civil partnership is probably one of the most stressful things you will ever do in your life and it ranks in the top 3 for significant stressful life events. A good divorce solicitor will provide you clear and succinct advice and assistance which ultimately will result in a significant reduction of worry and anxiety.

For many divorce is fraught with all sorts of issues and it is often difficult if not impossible to think clearly and act rationally. Experienced solicitors are emotionally neutral as it is not about them and they will look at your divorce in a calm and rational way and be able to advice on the divorce process and what the next steps will involve.

Divorce generates a lot of paperwork, not just court documents but correspondence and file note and is not as simple as it first appears. When we take over cases from people who have got so far with the divorce process one of the key things we notice is the lack of information or detail, the client simply doesn’t fully appreciate how much information to provide and could be leaving out crucial information that would be in their best interests. A solicitor will be able to advise you when drafting the divorce petition, how strong your case is and what information you should leave in or out. However angry or hurt you might be feeling you don’t want to make matters worse by upsetting your spouse further which ultimately can affect costs with further hostile communications between them and your solicitor.

In our experience the divorce process never runs smooth. Even when divorce proceedings are issued it often happens that the other party simply doesn’t respond or they want to contest every little details. Most ‘do it yourself’ divorces don’t have enough information or guidance to deal with the unexpected issues that can often arise during the divorce process.

However enticing the cost appears if you get it wrong the costs can spiral out of control which adds further stress to an already difficult situation. If you get the paperwork wrong be in no doubt that the court will send it back to you and charge you for doing so.

Most ‘do it yourself’ divorce websites fail woefully to deal with the such important issues as finances and children matters. We would never advise a client to finalise a divorce until all financial matters are resolved. This often happens when you do it yourself and often because you simply want the matter to over and done with.

It is our view that no website offering low cost divorces simply can offer you advice tailored to your specific circumstances. When it comes to money and finance don’t ever think that they are straightforward they are not. They are complex and require knowledge and skill. Lack of knowledge as to whether you have a financial claim is a common error. For example did you know that you are entitled to maintenance for themselves or a share in their spouse’s pension. A good solicitor can advise you about all aspects of your case, about what is a fair and reasonable given your circumstances and if you need representation in court proceedings.

Even when you successfully reach an agreement with your spouse there is still a way to go. A draft agreement in a form which will be approved by the court so this is an important part of the process. Any orders relating to financial matter are not so clear cut. For experienced divorce solicitors this is easy but they will also ensure that provisions are in place if your spouse decides to change their mind and ignore the agreement. You can only know how you will behave in life and a good solicitor knows that you need to plan for the unexpected.

Even when you think it is all over you may sometimes have to go to court again to deal with the unexpected. This too can be very stressful. Good representation is vital and a good solicitor will keep you informed all the way. It is worth noting that court will only review your case in very limited circumstances. So the rule of thumb is to get the right advice from the start. If it looks to good to be true it probably is.

If you are in the process of or considering divorce, please give me a call to talk through your options. At The Law House we have a variety of fee options, including fixed costs where appropriate. Please contact me in 01245 809 556 or email me at sbarnes@thelawhouse.com There are so many websites out there that promise a quick and easy divorce, some for as little as £37. Tempting, but is it really a good as it sounds? In our view there is no such thing as a “quickie divorce” mostly because too many things can go wrong. Nothing is ever as simple as it seems and good, professional legal advice is essential to ensure that you achieve the best result for yourself and if appropriate, your children following divorce and dare we say it a fair deal for your about to be ex! Before you start thinking of using a low cost online divorce provide read on…!

Of all the questions that clients ask us first it is always about cost and quite right too. At The Law House we are upfront about costs from the start because we understand that the last thing you need is the shock of a large bill. Most people going through a divorce are already in straightened circumstances most often because you have to run two households during the period of negotiations during a divorce. Lets face it, solicitors don’t always have the best reputation when it comes to fees. We like our clients to talk to us about money. Most people are unaware that if you opt for the ‘quick and easy’ online divorce or instruct an experienced solicitor, the court fees are the same – £445.

Divorce or the dissolution of a civil partnership is probably one of the most stressful things you will ever do in your life and it ranks in the top 3 for significant stressful life events. A good divorce solicitor will provide you clear and succinct advice and assistance which ultimately will result in a significant reduction of worry and anxiety.

For many divorce is fraught with all sorts of issues and it is often difficult if not impossible to think clearly and act rationally. Experienced solicitors are emotionally neutral as it is not about them and they will look at your divorce in a calm and rational way and be able to advice on the divorce process and what the next steps will involve.

Divorce generates a lot of paperwork, not just court documents but correspondence and file note and is not as simple as it first appears. When we take over cases from people who have got so far with the divorce process one of the key things we notice is the lack of information or detail, the client simply doesn’t fully appreciate how much information to provide and could be leaving out crucial information that would be in their best interests. A solicitor will be able to advise you when drafting the divorce petition, how strong your case is and what information you should leave in or out. However angry or hurt you might be feeling you don’t want to make matters worse by upsetting your spouse further which ultimately can affect costs with further hostile communications between them and your solicitor.

In our experience the divorce process never runs smooth. Even when divorce proceedings are issued it often happens that the other party simply doesn’t respond or they want to contest every little details. Most ‘do it yourself’ divorces don’t have enough information or guidance to deal with the unexpected issues that can often arise during the divorce process.

However enticing the cost appears if you get it wrong the costs can spiral out of control which adds further stress to an already difficult situation. If you get the paperwork wrong be in no doubt that the court will send it back to you and charge you for doing so.

Most ‘do it yourself’ divorce websites fail woefully to deal with the such important issues as finances and children matters. We would never advise a client to finalise a divorce until all financial matters are resolved. This often happens when you do it yourself and often because you simply want the matter to over and done with.

It is our view that no website offering low cost divorces simply can offer you advice tailored to your specific circumstances. When it comes to money and finance don’t ever think that they are straightforward they are not. They are complex and require knowledge and skill. Lack of knowledge as to whether you have a financial claim is a common error. For example did you know that you are entitled to maintenance for themselves or a share in their spouse’s pension. A good solicitor can advise you about all aspects of your case, about what is a fair and reasonable given your circumstances and if you need representation in court proceedings.

Even when you successfully reach an agreement with your spouse there is still a way to go. A draft agreement in a form which will be approved by the court so this is an important part of the process. Any orders relating to financial matter are not so clear cut. For experienced divorce solicitors this is easy but they will also ensure that provisions are in place if your spouse decides to change their mind and ignore the agreement. You can only know how you will behave in life and a good solicitor knows that you need to plan for the unexpected.

Even when you think it is all over you may sometimes have to go to court again to deal with the unexpected. This too can be very stressful. Good representation is vital and a good solicitor will keep you informed all the way. It is worth noting that court will only review your case in very limited circumstances. So the rule of thumb is to get the right advice from the start. If it looks to good to be true it probably is.

If you are in the process of or considering divorce, please give me a call to talk through your options. At The Law House we have a variety of fee options, including fixed costs where appropriate. Please contact me in 01245 809 556 or email me at sbarnes@thelawhouse.com